I was raised Lutheran, so things were strict but we found out early about Katie Luther .. pretty racy stuff for a 12 year old.
Lutheran was slow to the "acceptance" table for alternative sexual orientations, but they have improved their "loving" behaviour, pastor by pastor, rather than a nationwide decision that…
I was raised Lutheran, so things were strict but we found out early about Katie Luther .. pretty racy stuff for a 12 year old.
Lutheran was slow to the "acceptance" table for alternative sexual orientations, but they have improved their "loving" behaviour, pastor by pastor, rather than a nationwide decision that angered many.
I left after trying to move my congregation to be pro-justice, anti-racist and pro- various sexual orientation. I found Congregational UCC. Even in Florida, they are proudly welcoming and affirming and racially balanced, also very intelligent members individually.
Maybe it's the intelligent part that makes the healing happen?
That's cool that you found a church like that, Nancy. I know there are many of them. My friends go to Unitarian churches. That's where my dad ended up. He did lots of volunteer work, e.g., for STD education, AIDs patients, gleaning & food banks, feeding people on Thanksgiving.
I think intelligence helps; I feel fortunate to have a high IQ. But the skills of socio-emotional intelligence are probably the most important. I once led a curriculum redesign effort for the Army's JROTC program. It has excellent content & skill development. A really good program. Taxpayers paid for it.
Post-traumatic growth is real. Many people who have suffered greatly develop strategies that don't shut down their ability to feel empathy or care for others. But you don't have to suffer a lot to learn those skills. And many people who suffer find themselves unable to overcome despair, fear, and anger.
Wow,,,, emphasis on the OW!
I was raised Lutheran, so things were strict but we found out early about Katie Luther .. pretty racy stuff for a 12 year old.
Lutheran was slow to the "acceptance" table for alternative sexual orientations, but they have improved their "loving" behaviour, pastor by pastor, rather than a nationwide decision that angered many.
I left after trying to move my congregation to be pro-justice, anti-racist and pro- various sexual orientation. I found Congregational UCC. Even in Florida, they are proudly welcoming and affirming and racially balanced, also very intelligent members individually.
Maybe it's the intelligent part that makes the healing happen?
That's cool that you found a church like that, Nancy. I know there are many of them. My friends go to Unitarian churches. That's where my dad ended up. He did lots of volunteer work, e.g., for STD education, AIDs patients, gleaning & food banks, feeding people on Thanksgiving.
I think intelligence helps; I feel fortunate to have a high IQ. But the skills of socio-emotional intelligence are probably the most important. I once led a curriculum redesign effort for the Army's JROTC program. It has excellent content & skill development. A really good program. Taxpayers paid for it.
Post-traumatic growth is real. Many people who have suffered greatly develop strategies that don't shut down their ability to feel empathy or care for others. But you don't have to suffer a lot to learn those skills. And many people who suffer find themselves unable to overcome despair, fear, and anger.